Shame, guilt, and fear of judgment is something a lot of people struggle with when it comes to food and body issues. These often lead to living life with low self-esteem and a lack of self-love. Do you find yourself assuming that people will judge you as harshly as you judge yourself? And does this mindset make you prone to social isolation?
As I worked through my own recovery, I learned that community is so important when it comes to ending the fight with food and your body. Humans are social creatures. Way back in tribal days, we actually died if we failed to connect with others. Just like food or shelter, connection and love are necessities. And not only do we want to connect with others, but we want to do so as our most authentic selves. This is why disordered eating can be so painful – it prevents us from attaining a fundamental need that we are hardwired to want.
It is time to look to others for support and connection.
I can tell you from experience that a safe and supportive community can make all the difference when it comes to recovery. Whether it’s a space, group, or a relationship in which you can be unapologetically you–”baggage” and all–you begin to heal. You will also discover your highest, best, and most authentic self.
If you need some tips on finding a safe and supportive community, try one of these:
Cultivating community will make such a difference in your struggle. It will allow you an opportunity to be honest with where you’re at and finally start to heal. There is real relief and beauty in bringing your darkness into the light – the coolest thing happens – it finally loses its hold over you.
